Posted by 2sonsfun on Jun 10, 2010 at 04:07 AM
I was walking around the house Friday when I felt a breeze from my sons room and his window was cracked open, but once I closed it I noticed an odor and I checked his bed and it had layers of towls on his bed and relized he had been wetting the bed. As I was removing his sheets I found a plastic bag full of of his underwear all staind with urine. I couldn’t beleive my 15 year old son has been wetting his bed. Once he got home from school I sat him down and told him what I had found. He started to cry and I felt so sorry for him. He told me he had been having accidents for the past week or so. I asked him if anything was wrong or felt sick, but he said he felt fine, he said he has woke up to a wet bed every morning. After our conversation he asked if we could go to the store and I asked why? He was wondering about getting diapers. He said he found out about them online and rather wake up in a diaper then a wet bed. So I said as long as it is okay with you we’ll go get some, so we went I got Depends maxium protection. He has been wearing them and has wet them each night and he did need some help putting them on. I am reaching out to all other moms to see what to do or if you have been though similar problems. Anything will help. Thank You,
Dear Mom of 15 year old,
The first question I have for you – did your son wet the bed as a child? Often teenagers who continue wetting have had so many failed attempts trying to become dry that they simply give up and hide the evidence. Diapers are a poor solution for this serious problem.
I work with the Enuresis Treatment Center which deals only with bedwetting cases. We have treated thousands of children, teenagers, and yes, adults. Bedwetting is a problem caused by an abnormally deep sleep, which doesn’t allow for the bedwetter’s brain and bladder to connect so they can effectively respond to each other.
In 99% of all bedwetting cases, (based upon our research of thousands of documented cases) the root cause is an inherited deep sleep disorder that results in bedwetting as well as a non-rested, unhealthy sleep. This compromised sleep can also result in daytime symptoms which your son may be experiencing; difficulty awakening, fatigue, memory difficulty, irritability, difficulty concentrating. Symptoms can increase as they reach adulthood.
Medical Professionals often advise to stop worrying about the bedwetting, “they will outgrow it”. Well, you son is experiencing either primary enuresis and has not outgrown it, or he is experiencing secondary enuresis.
There is NO guarantee that someone will outgrow bedwetting, in fact after the age of seven, it is less likely. One in 50 teenagers, as well as four million adults continue suffering from bedwetting.
Proper treatment is never simple. As I mentioned above, diapers are not a treatment, especially for a teenager. Your son is looking for help. Self-treatment programs alone do not address the underlying sleep disorder. Studies show a very high rate of bedwetting relapses with alarms, which gives another failed experience.
Many medical professionals misinform patients when they blame a small bladder as the cause of bedwetting. It is actually a RESULT of the bedwetting. Moreover, restricting fluids causes further underdevelopment of the bladder, as well as dehydration.
If drugs are prescribed or considered to be at all effective, consider that once the drugs are discontinued, the bedwetting will likely resume. Drugs may serve as a temporary fix for a complicated problem, and drugs clearly produce side effects, some as yet unknown.
For 35 years, the Enuresis Treatment Center has been ending bedwetting for children, teenagers, and adults who thought there was no hope. Our research and experience has validated that bedwetting that can be treated without drugs or invasive surgery.
I would encourage you to visit the website with your son. Take advantage of the extensive information available. It will be a great relief for your son to learn he is not alone, it is not his fault, and help is available now.
Lyle Danuloff, Ph.D.